Sex shouldn't be painful, not a first time, not any time. I think -- no surprise here! Im not exactly sure on the correct terms, but she didn't diagnose me with anything, just said I was very small. I remain so angry on your behalf about this, btw, and so bummed for you that you had to experience that. If so, this may well be breakthrough bleeding, at least in part, because if now would have been around the time you would have expected a period BEFORE you started the pill, it would be typical for someone who didn't do a first-day or Sunday start to have spotting like that, or just get a withdrawal bleed in the first pack of pills or two more around the time their period was due than at the time that lines up neatly with the placebo week. A penis will not "tear anyone apart.
I certainly respect your right to pleasure and intimacy of all kinds in your life, including sexually, and think neither are anything to feel ashamed about.
Is it normal for a virgin girl to bleed a lot after sex?
Did you use lube and go slowly? No registered users and 2 guests. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. That's why I like posting here, because its an accepting and comfortable environment, and everyone is so helpful, so thank you for that! If spotting is all that's happening here, I'd not sweat it. I would love to hear about how to make it less painful and comfortable!